With the dawn of the digital age, everything seems to be driven by information technology, including dating. Modern dating is now equated to dating apps such as Bumble, Tinder, and Happn.
The tools to use the app have grown easier as they have evolved from user experiences. Take swiping as a cultural phenomenon that has frenzied the online dating world. A swipe to the right is a way to communicate potential interest, and a swipe to the left is a quick rejection.
If you're single and in your twenties or thirties, there's a good chance you have used or are using dating apps like Bumble to find your potential bae. Even if you're just dabbling with it and having a quick swipe sesh as you wait in the queue for your coffee.
The online dating game is a cycle of match, meet, repeat until you find the right one.
The swiping phenomenon is too real. And quite entertaining.
The dating app Bumble has 36 million registered users with 64,000 new users joining every day. The dating pool is getting bigger and bigger; this is good news.
What makes Bumble different is that once you find a match, the female initiates the conversation. You have 24 hours to start a conversation or your potential boo disappears forever.
On Bumble, your potential match either swipes right or left based on a few things: your pictures, your education, your job and your bio description. Let's unpack this, shall we?
I mean, how hard can it be?
Bumble gives you 300 characters in your profile to describe yourself and who you are. Often, this is either overlooked or not much effort is put in this part. But, it is in your description that you have a chance to give a little teaser to your personality.
Start by thinking of a way to inject your sense of humour or general boss babe-ness in your bio.
Some suggestions? A fun fact about you or a little story about you. Whatever you feel is light and inviting and is a conversation-starter.
And why are you using the app in the first place? For a bit of fun or something more serious? It won't hurt to put that in your bio too.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and in this case, it couldn't be truer. The more pictures the better. And good photos too!
Obviously what is deemed as "good" will vary from one person to another. You can ask 100 different humans, and each will have a varying answer.
But a general guideline would be:
Pictures that show your face.
Pictures of you doing something you love.
Pictures that could spark a conversation.
Pictures of you having fun.
Pictures that don't confuse/obscure who you are (like girl gang photos, leaving them to play a guessing game of who you are.)
Once you match, it's up to you to start the conversation. And I'm sure you can do better than "Hello, how are you?"
First impressions are everything. Whether is online dating or meeting someone in the real world.
When you're ready to start a conversation, have look at the profile and pictures and what he's put out there and start the conversation with a message that is inviting for more conversation.
Within a few messages, you should both already have an idea if you want to meet up or not. If you're interested, don't wait too long before you put it out there. And don't wait too long before you actually plan to meet.
State your intentions and forge your own romantic path.
I know this is common sense, but, figure out a location that works for both of you. Find out which area they live in and suggest places between you both.
It could make for a nice conversation topic to figure out a place to meet because it is a way to find out more about personal interests.
And of course, it should go without saying, to meet up with your date in a public space just for a little safety measure.
Dealing with rejection
Of course, in an ideal world, this would all go perfectly. But, there is a chance it may not. For example, your date may not follow through with plans. Or you could meet up, and he isn't what you're expecting, or vice versa. And either he or you could go completely off-grid because of disinterest. These things happen.
In the case that it does, you have to remember that Bumble is a dating app. And your self-worth is not determined by an encounter your match on a dating app.
If it falls through, just like normal dating, it's because of incompatibility. And you just don't look back and move on to the next one.
The cultural phenomenon of swiping has been championed by modern dating apps like Bumble. What makes them different is that the females are the ones to start the conversation.
The few things that you are judged on before someone swipes right or left are your pictures, your education, your job, and your bio description. And you have the chance to make these interesting and let your personality shine through.
All in all, the most important thing to remember is to have fun with it. Don't take yourself or your matches too seriously. You may find yourself with some great and fun dates, some not so great dates, and some great stories to tell.